Bob Riter

Common Phrases Heard at the Cancer Resource Center

Posted August 11th, 2014

Although every situation is unique, I often hear certain common phrases repeated on a regular basis at the cancer resource center.


Bob Riter

When a Friend has Cancer, Just Listen

Posted July 30th, 2014

At the Cancer Resource Center, we try to keep our mouths shut, and to listen without judgment or agenda. Most of us instinctively try to reassure the person with cancer, share our own experiences, or otherwise just talk. When a friend has cancer, just listen.


Bob Riter

Don’t Give Advice to Friends with Cancer

Posted July 18th, 2014

People often call me and say, “My friend was just diagnosed with cancer. What can I do to help her?” My answer is simple: Be present and don’t give advice.


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Don’t be an Obnoxious Patient

Posted June 30th, 2014

I sometimes hear people say that the best way to get good health care is to be obnoxious. By this, they mean that you should demand that the doctor see you immediately, or that you should demand that your needs be met first. Let me give you some advice: Don’t be obnoxious. It always works […]


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Decision Making with Cancer

Posted June 16th, 2014

Everyone diagnosed with cancer has decisions to make. What type of treatment? Where to have treatment? Should the cancer even be treated? Decision Making with Cancer.


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Personality and Cancer

Posted June 2nd, 2014

Aside from inappropriately blaming the person with cancer for causing her cancer, it suggests that cancer is a result of one’s thought-processes or personality. That’s a myth.


Bob Riter

A Cancer Pity Party

Posted May 15th, 2014

A woman with cancer recently told me that she was planning a pity party. She explained that, “Cancer just sucks and I want to get together with my friends to acknowledge that it sucks.” Sounds reasonable. Those of us with cancer tend to put on brave faces. But there are times that we grieve for […]


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Blended Families and Cancer

Posted May 8th, 2014

Communication within a family after a cancer diagnosis can be complicated, particularly for newer blended families and cancer.


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Some Patients Can Face Boredom

Posted April 21st, 2014

A young man with cancer recently told me that he felt bored. That’s not something I often hear from people who are dealing with cancer, but I know what he meant. Some patients can face boredom.


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How Old is too Old to Treat Cancer?

Posted February 28th, 2014

The older you are, the more likely it is that you’ll be diagnosed with cancer. The average age at diagnosis is now 66 and it’s increasingly common for people in their late 80s and even older to consider cancer treatment.